WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE ?

A person in relationship often asks me this question. They often follow with “don’t be too picky” or “why you haven't move on?” Or "aren't you lonely?” At first these questions annoy me and trigger me at the same time. I felt I have to prove them wrong (yup, good luck with that. No matter how hard I tried, I still feel they don’t get me).

A single person on the contrary hardly bring this up, they feel that things is easier being single. When they know I really single (meaning: has no boyfriend) they will open up on how much they enjoy their freedom and doesn’t regret the choice of still single and not rush into the next available relationship life present to us. They also want my confirmation if I feel the same.

Why am I single? I tried to ask my-self a couple times, too. Personally, I don’t like being single, always manifest a partner. I love going on a date with pretty dress, I love conversation over coffee and getting to know each other. But apparently as I begin more and more comfortable with myself, a partner is just an option not a necessity. Deeper meaning that I feel more and more enjoy my single life and do things that I loved, like cooking, writing, creating my social media, and I even learn to improve my website by myself. I enjoyed teaching meditation and help people in private consultation, I love gain new knowledge from online class and books, I love creating content for my teaching and makes sure that always have something interesting for each class. I love to improve my fashion business and expand the marketing to market share, I love do the things that makes me happy. In cooking, I even try new recipes and sold them among my friends. Everyday life seems more and more exciting. As I begin to enjoy and busy with the things that give me sparks, I feel I begin intolerable with unpleasant distractions, such as bad dates, unmeaningful chit chats and entertaining the ghosted that ghosting me.

Am I lonely? Yes, I am, but I would rather lonely by my self than lonely in relationship. I done that and it isn’t cool. I manifesting to have a date night that I am actually happy on the date rather than feeling relief when the date is over. I am intent to have a partner that understand that they can be themselves and that’s ok, I honor honesty and genuine intention above everything. I would love to have a partner that I don’t have to constantly proved my worth and I love to have a partner that accept me for who I am, as I would love to accept him as he is. I would love to grow together and become the best version of ourselves, I would love both of us to have passion in life and make our mission come true in this life.

Am I picky? Yes, I am. Being who I am today is long and uneasy journey for me and my kids. Vibrating in love energy, acceptance and no expectation takes courage, dedication and a spirit of never give up.

So, yes! I am very careful in letting someone come into our life. I believe everyone is kind in their own way, and I also believe someone that meant to be for me, will be for me no matter what. Probably not in the next couple days, but we will meet for sure, in divine time, when we both ready, no pressure no hidden agenda, just us with the world ahead of us, bring in love into world.

Especially in Indonesia, while everyone wants to know about others private matters (aka KEPO). When you are single people ask you when you going to get married, “remember you are not getting younger”, as if we get married and we will stop aging. Being single is not a crime as being in relationship is also have their consequences, I believe that everybody has their own lesson, different from everybody else. Being single facing a judgement form other, feeling lack of support and lonely while the one with relationship have to keep the excitement alive, compromise and less time for yourself. It’s just a different lesson, neither is better or worse.

I respect you for being in relationship, and I hope others also honor the choice of single women right to be with them selves at the moment, and it doesn’t mean they are unlovable, not good enough, it’s just we have different lesson in life.

Embracing my single life

Appreciate and count my blessing of who I am with all my strength & weakness

Being truth to myself

Feeling Enough, I am loved

21 August 2021