GHOSTING, AGAIN? REALLY?

Thank you for join class last May 2021 about understanding Ghosting, Zombieing & Breadcrumbing.

This September we are going to discuss further not only emotion behind it but also how to cut the cord and preparing yourself to be strong enough to say “No” if you don’t want this to continue, or to stop this behavior if you the one cannot stop Ghosting.

What to prepare to stop attracting this action (ghosting, zombieing or breadcrumbing)

1. Ask yourself, do you really want it to end? No hidden agenda and your energy are everything, only you can allow anyone to treat you in the way you want to be treated. (The way you treat yourself is the standard of others treating you)

Sometimes you said yes, you want it to end but your heart feels that there is a slightly change that the other person will have the same intention as you and this time will be different. This feeling can come from sincerity of your heart (that everyone is kind, willing to change, deserved a second or million changes) or it comes from unresolved emotion you feel inside, feeling not good enough, unloved and feel that you deserved to be treat it this way (without respect, without kindness without real action)

2. Ask yourself, why you want this to stop? What is your unshakeable reason to stop the other people to treat you the way they treat you? You need this reason so every time you want to go back ghosting someone or allow yourself being ghosted you will have a strong reason not to go back to those patterns.

Saying No to unbalance relationship takes more courage than you realize, because we used to care of what other people feeling, we used to priority others rather than ours. Have Courage to choose yourself. Prioritizing yourself is a mandatory. Only when you feel deserved to be treated better, you can say No to anything and everything that less than the best.

3. Forgive, and say thank you. Forgive yourself for not knowing better at that time, forgive yourself to let your self being mistreated, forgive yourself for all our action, our feeling and anything that trigger us to let our guard down to protect our feeling. Embrace that we make a decision to change, its better late than never, celebrate our decision and say thank you to the messenger that because of you, we are who we are and become the stronger versions of us.

Allowing yourself to grief is part of the process, as when I did, I also felt the emotion of the other person. I felt his anger and his defense, and it makes me feel sad, too. Then I remember that when I end this behavior, the intention is I love my self so much that I don’t want my self to go trough the same pain over and over again. I don’t blame the other party, as I accept that he just a messenger for me to love my self-more, my soul wants me to choose me, to prioritize myself, for that, I am forever grateful. I allow myself to be treated that way, and I learn my lesson. Without these experiences I wouldn’t be here and preparing to teach this class and help others to resolved their self confidence issue and take back their power in life.

f you can change, transformed to be the better version of you, how do you know that another person is also grow? How do you know it will be better this time with the same person that ghosting you? How to prepare yourself after the ghosting stop? How to stop this behavior can be a good shift for you?

Well, well, well still so much to discuss… you will just have to come to my relationship class, Friday 24 September 2021 at 7.00 pm. We will do a reflection, meditate on it and discuss your questions.

See you in class!!!