REAL MOM DOESNT ALWAYS RIGHT

I feel I am definitely not a regular mom that cooks, cleans, and drives the children around. On holiday, when I teach my kid to do their laundry in the bathroom sink, she looks at me and says “I didn’t know you can do that, every time mba pulang you asked kakak to do laundry. I thought because you cannot do it.”

I asked my kids, what should I teach other mothers in family class? My son soon suggested “you should teach them how to love themselves more, mommy” oh that’s sweet thank you son. I asked my daughter to think that even though I am not a “regular” mom, what she thinks is my best quality to share with another mom. She begins with “you are a patient and good listener, and you don’t sweat the small stuff. Remember when I accidentally drop my new phone at the toilet? You don’t get mad or punish me, you said these things happen, you also didn’t buy me a new phone for 2 years and I live with the consequences. You also said that school is important, but the grade is not everything. You are supportive of my interest, you let me join school performance when I have the National exam. I wish another mother would be more open-minded and chill”. Then, I asked her if there is anything, she wanted me to change, she said “well mommy, you most of the time right. But it doesn’t mean you are always right, you could be wrong. I just don’t remember when”

Every family is unique, there is no “regular” or “irregular”. I did feel inferior to the other moms that cook and involved with their kids, always be there for them, arrange activities for their kids. I know I shouldn’t compare; I feel the best way to be a good parent is that being there for the kids, and I honor every attempt to support our kids no matter the result. We might get misunderstood and our kids took it the wrong way, be there anyway, as the practice of unconditional love.

My Message for all moms and parents will be “Be happy, enjoy the present moment” whether it's an argument or a loving moment, both are valuable. I don’t provide the perfect family for my kid, I always do every moment perfectly just by being me, just by sending a positive thought to all the imperfections I find in our relationship and believe that every little moment good or bad are just meant to be to happen, look for the reason behind it rather than what actually happens.

Have a nice day, relax mom you can do it

If I can, you can, all we need to do is to allow ourselves to try

Allow our heart let go of all judgment of what it will be

Just do and enjoy the moment

25 of February 2021